Recently I decided that cleaning my house can wait! My dishes will remain in the sink until the end of the night, laundry will stay in a pile until the basket is full, doggy poop wont pick itself up but my dogs won’t mind if I only clean the backyard once a week, my son won’t mind if there’s a little dirt on the floor and my husband will just have to understand that I am trying to take care of myself, and spending more time Ethan is just more important.
I have been a stay home mom since I was about 7 months pregnant with Ethan, my husband and I decided that by staying home, we would save money on daycare, our son would be less likely to get sick and our home affairs would be easier to be cared for. After Ethan was born I right I had this whole staying at home thing down to a science, I had a cleaning schedule (like daily chores) and Ethan was sleeping so much that it was working g out great. But now I realize that I have been missing out on our little guy growing up. Every day he learns something new and when I’m running around like a chicken with her head cut off trying to keep everything clean and tidy, my kid is learning a new word, discovering a new toy and exploring new adventures with out me.
Well this is it, I have decided that everything can wait. Because at the end of the day all those house chores will still be there but my son won’t ever do something for the first time ever again, this is for all the firsts and also the lasts, because he won’t be little forever and I want enjoy every breastfeeding session, every kiss goodnight, every second spent playing with trucks or pushing him on his swing. Who knows if today will be the day he asks to be nurses or wants to be held like a baby, tonight might be the last night he wants to sleep in my bed or be held while I’m cooking dinner.
Then there’s taking care of myself, I’m sure many of you ladies and gentlemen can relate, that with a new baby sometimes there is so much going on that you easily forget to take care of yourself. I have missed doctors appointments, skipped nail and hair appointments, missed showers for a day or two, and sometimes skipped meals because I am so worried about everything except myself. But I realize now that I have to be more involved in taking care of my self, not just my body but my mind as well. Mental health is just as important if not more important than your physical health. Being a mommy can be draining and you will new to recharge your batteries whether that be glass of wine or massage every now and then or just taking the time to sit down and read a new book. I have to take more time just for me, the cleaning can wait.
I love being a stay at home mom and I am so grateful I have the opportunity to experience all the things I have been able to, thank you to all my friends and family for your wonderful support and a huge special thank you to my amazing husband who takes such wonderful care of Ethan and I, I can’t do all the things I do with out your love and support! A clean house isn’t enough anymore, I am not going to miss out of the greasiest things in life anymore.
Lots of Love,